When you’re trying hard to recover and you have friends who are unwell and not recovery motivated, its really difficult.
Is it mean to tell someone you can’t deal with them until they’re better?
That’s the debate that’s floating around my head currently. If someone said it to me I would be so upset and angry. I’m not sure if I would ever want to be friends with them again. That said, now I’m in this position, I do kind of understand why someone may make that decision.
It’s just so much harder when you’re unwell too, and when you’re trying to climb out of a hole and there are people in the hole pulling you back in even if its unintentional.
I just don’t know what to do. Knowing that this person also has BPD & knowing how BPD can completely warp your judgement, I feel like I should be more sympathetic, but it isn’t easy at all. I am struggling to find that sympathy and I am getting wound up instead.
What do you guys think? Either as someone in recovery or someone who is very unwell. Is there a way to keep yourself safe that won’t result in some kind of drama or “bad person” feelings?